‘Neutralisation’ - 28th October 2020

Father figure missing dynamism - 6 Automated mindset- checklist (the narcissist )

1. Do they care or respect your personality?

2. Or, do they care about you as a resource?

3. Do they listen to you and respect your opinion, even that is a different point of view from theirs?

4. Do they get emotional and abusive if you say something different from their point of view?

5. Do they treat you the same way when you are alone with him/her, as you are with him in front of others?

6. the last one is so simple, they wish your happiness? Though, you are responsible for your own happiness by oneself. So do they. Their daily mood is not depending on you. Your daily mood is not depending on them. 

Being aware of who accepts you ‘unconditionally’, would secure your healthy environment. Close your eyes, and try to feel the energy, then pick up how you feel toward the particular person, if you feel ‘fear’, then leave.

As much as we have baggage within our unconscious psyche, so do them. Energy shows everything. Take care of your heart. Take care of your kindness. Take care of your health and energy.

‘We call on the Angel of Repose to create balance in our schedules, with time for fun, time to relax, and time to enjoy ourselves. Taking time for ourselves creates inner harmony and peace of mind. And knowing we are worthy and deserving of peace and harmony lets us draw a self-preserving boundary so that work and pleasure are balanced. Rest gives us the opportunity to focus on the goals that bring peace to the spirit and repose to the body.’ - Ambika Wauters

Boundary coaching session - Tanaka- method / NLP

Intention-orientated, to get the result. This is the key. The key to getting the result.

Even you might feel uncomfortable in the beginning, you will see over the course that you would create your own place of the light, to be yourself, to be heard.

Fears that installed by others will be subsided. You will see through life in a better version of the perception, without being brainwashed by other people’s agendas.

Standing up on your two feet. That is what you will achieve. 

If you are interested, contact me here for the first free counseling session to see if I could support you. 

A workshop `Time capsule` project is OPEN now!

If you are interested, please check out the page `Time Capsule` 

I would love to get to know you a bit better, and explore your dreamscape!

I will be a listener for your story!

Please check out this page ’ memory-bank’ also for a question list, if you are interested in a session with me!

As some people have been asking me which platform I use for my website, I place the link here. This platform ‘Format’ has a good supportive team, who are almost 24 hours available and has been so helpful for me leading this far with their various advice and tips! I can confidently recommend you if you are interested in creating your new websites!

‘Between the given social norms’ - 28th October 2020

‘Cleansing the air’ - 27th October 2020

I stumbled upon the same stone. I stumbled over and over again.

Rather than holding it, the time had passed when I realized it, from my point of view. But this time it was a little different. The pattern was visible. Things like conversation patterns and emotional flow habits. For some reason, I came up with a children’s literature that I read a long time ago. A story about being able to bring your feet to a devilish goblin if you have naivety.

However, when I saw the pattern and noticed the glasses I was wearing, it felt like I had been removed. I was looking directly at the “reality”. Maybe it was a push to say the truth. ‘Let’s look at the contents of the crap’.

It doesn’t have to be understood by anyone. It felt like I understood myself by speaking. It might have been like a bean barking.

It was as if I was staring at my dirty feelings, the feelings of “dirt” and closing my eyes, and feeling some kind of fear. Somehow, I realized that what I was afraid of actually holds the important key to taking good care of myself.

Good to remind yourself as :

‘The right place values you the right way. If you are not valued, do not be angry, it means you are in the wrong place. Those who know your value are those who appreciate you. Never stay in a place where no one sees your value.’

Boundary coaching session - Tanaka- method / NLP

Intention-orientated, to get the result. This is the key. The key to getting the result.

Even you might feel uncomfortable in the beginning, you will see over the course that you would create your own place of the light, to be yourself, to be heard.

Fears that installed by others will be subsided. You will see through life in a better version of the perception, without being brainwashed by other people’s agendas.

Standing up on your two feet. That is what you will achieve. 

If you are interested, contact me here for the first free counseling session to see if I could support you. 

A workshop `Time capsule` project is OPEN now!

If you are interested, please check out the page `Time Capsule` 

I would love to get to know you a bit better, and explore your dreamscape!

I will be a listener for your story!

Please check out this page ’ memory-bank’ also for a question list, if you are interested in a session with me!

As some people have been asking me which platform I use for my website, I place the link here. This platform ‘Format’ has a good supportive team, who are almost 24 hours available and has been so helpful for me leading this far with their various advice and tips! I can confidently recommend you if you are interested in creating your new websites!

‘Humanly human’ - 27th October 2020

‘In matters of the heart’ - 26th October 2020

Over time the truth would show itself. Somehow I didn’t see it at that time.

Behind the scenes of guilt.

I’m telling myself that I don’t need the ideology of sacrifice anymore. My son fell while rolling roller skates. A conversation with a kind-hearted elderly lady who rushed to him.

This elderly lady who has raised four children told me, ‘I also have four grown-up children,  I could only take care of each quarter. I apologized to each and every one of them after they became an adult. Only a quarter of love for each.’

I was amazed and moved by her humbleness.  An idea that shows sincerity to the children and apologizes in that way.

A feeling of guilt toward parents in childhood.  A feeling of guilt toward children as parents.

It is a flip of a coin for love?

At the same time, I remembered by writing it out in this way. A word my friend said when I and my son left my son’s other homeland, 

‘ Don’t put guilt in your heart. Guilt doesn’t produce anything positive’

I was messed up at the time, emotionally. I was full of guilt for my son.

I’m going to put that feeling to sleep. For any person. For children and for parents. I can feel that the field of vision is getting better little by little.

I think now. I wonder why I could endure the situation. I shouldn’t have been in that place from the start. I was saved.

 A habitual thinking process

We don’t even know, what sort of a habit of thinking we are holding until some issues coming up to question us. Only by interacting with others, we would get tested. Toward clarity in matters of the heart. An act of balancing out.　

Boundary coaching session - Tanaka- method / NLP

Intention-orientated, to get the result. This is the key. The key to getting the result.

Even you might feel uncomfortable in the beginning, you will see over the course that you would create your own place of the light, to be yourself, to be heard.

Fears that installed by others will be subsided. You will see through life in a better version of the perception, without being brainwashed by other people’s agendas.

Standing up on your two feet. That is what you will achieve. 

If you are interested, contact me here for the first free counseling session to see if I could support you. 

A workshop `Time capsule` project is OPEN now!

If you are interested in, please check out the page `Time Capsule` 

I would love to get to know you a bit better, and explore your dreamscape!

I will be a listener for your story!

Please check out this page ’ memory-bank’ also for a question list, if you are interested in a session with me!

As some people have been asking me which platform I use for my website, I place the link here. This platform ‘Format’ has a good supportive team, who are almost 24 hours available and has been so helpful for me leading this far with their various advice and tips! I can confidently recommend you if you are interested in creating your new websites!

‘The clarity of the heart’ - 26th October 2020